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Bear Abby

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I need advice

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Bear Abby,

I need advice I've been on here for two years my other profile I deleted because I met a guy, and then things went sour when it became known that I actually cared for this guy and he just did me wrong so that's why I ceated this new profile anyways, I know I'm 21 years old but I know what I want in life and in a relationship I don't know I'm trying to hard, or I'm just blinded by wanting someone I'm still a virgin I had plenty of times to fool around and have sex but I turned them all down I want more in life and a relationship than just a one night stand. I've talked to some men on here and yes I'm attracted to older guys but they always say the same stuff your too young I feel like I'm robbing you from your life im not ready I'm his type I just need advice Im tired of trying and at the end I get hurt



Dear Mr.lonely,

The best advice I can give you is to stop trying so hard. Set your expectations lower. Date as many men as you possibly can. For each date assume that you are only going to see the guy once and that yuo will have one fin evening and nothing else. Then you won't be disappointed when you don't hear from him again but when the right guy does eventually come along it will seem as though he just fell into your life by magic.



How can I cope with a Fag Hag?

Monday, September 22, 2014

Bear Abby,

I’ve recently met my new partner through Biggercity (thanks guys), we’d been chatting for months and decided to meet up. I had a great week at his place, we clicked and sex was amazing so we’ve decided to make a go of it. There is only one potential problem, his older female ‘best friend’.

I agreed to meet his friends as they are important to him. I was left shell shocked when on day 2 of my visit, she got very drunk and when he was out of the room told me she didn't care about any boyfriend, she was his best friend and she was the most important thing to him. She then appeared several times during the week despite me saying to BF I wanted some 'us' time.

I posted some nice photos of me and BF out and about and she asked where the photos of her were? I said all photos were taken during our trips out together and that we did need some time alone after all...Just so she'd get the hint. BF 'liked' my comment. Then she came back with she would be there twice a day every day!

To his credit BF recently posted that he's lucky to have some good friends and even luckier to have a BF who loves him. Yet I have this nightmare of him and me on our honeymoon strolling along a beach together with her chasing us...

I got through the week without confrontation as I was just thinking about me and BF and was determined not to give this ‘friend’ the attention she craves. Any suggestions on how I can strengthen my new relationship without upsetting anyone?

-shell shocked


Dear shell shocked,

I can't tell you exactly how to do it, but you will have to discuss her behavior with your new boyfriend soon. It will be his responsibility to set the proper boundaries with his female friend, but you have to make sure he is aware of what she is doing. If you don't deal with this early it will only get worse because her jealousy will only increase as the two of you spend more time together.



Re: Should I Cross State Lines for Love? And How?

Monday, September 22, 2014

Bear Abby,

I would certainly encourage Loveless in LA to spread his wings. The entertainment industry is deeply thriving in NYC and maybe he should explore the possibilities. Start by seeing what work is available and then go visit.

-My Two Cents


Dear My Two Cents,

I hope Loveless in LA sees this. I think it would do him good to see that there is some support out there.

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