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Am wanting advice on how to handle this situation

Monday, July 26, 2010new!

Bear Abby,

I met this guy online about 6 years ago. We moved from online chatting to phone chat. We exchanged photos and he said "he was in love". Our conversations become more intimate and we discussed how we would like to, at some time, settle down and if everything worked out become lovers.

We met for a few days about 3 years ago. He and I were very compatiable in all respects. But I got cold feet and walked away after 3 days.

He has kept calling me and sending emails that "it was okay" and we would work things out.

We started our phone discussions again and I said that I would like to someday have a relationship with someone, a person like him and then the truth came out. He said, "I can't move away from my family (he lives in another state) and he asked me to move to a large city about 30 miles from him so we could have "our relationship" that way. That is not what we discussed and I felt he lied to me all those years.

Now he has a convention close to where i am and wants ot spend time with me. I do care about him. He is a good person. However, I have decided that any type of sexual relations is not what I am after. I want to find someone who is more on the level of thinking I am about a solid, living together relationship. I don't know whether to call him a "Dear John" email and say "sorry I don't think we should see each other and why. Or just make excuses on why I can't see him when he calls.

-Confused

  
 

Dear Confused,

You should send him a "Dear John" email and tell him that it will not work out between you and why. Try to be tactful and respectful of his feelings but be clear and firm. Your life goals are not compatible with his. You are right to not want to be in a relationship with this person. He is not at a stage in his life where he is ready to be in a relationship with anyone.

  
 

I need advice on my Cocks girth.

Wednesday, July 21, 2010new!

Bear Abby,

Hey Bear Abby,

I was wondering if you had any advice on what to do or how to get the size of my girth improved. At this moment in time I weigh about 460lbs and im 5ft 10in and my cock is 5.5in long and about 1.5in thick. Now I think this is way to thin and I want to get more girth, what is the best way to get it, or should I just forget it and be happy with what I have?

Thanks Bear Abby

-SuperChub in Wolverhampton, UK

  
 

Dear SuperChub in Wolverhampton, UK,

It sounds to me like you are already well into Superchub territory. One of the most important aspects of the chub/chaser community is that we are free to be happy as we are. I don't think you need to go any further.

  
 

Big Man Odor

Wednesday, July 21, 2010new!

Bear Abby,

When
i was heavier, I used corn starch to keep cool and dry. It's an old fashioned way to stay dry, but really works!

The problem with most talcs on the market is they contain Aloe, a moisturizer, something to stay away from.

Maybe this will help.

-Nippers

  
 

Dear Nippers,

Thanks Nippers. I hope our readers find this useful.

  

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